From the moment you are born, threads are woven into this tapestry. 

And you are going along in your life and ‘something bad’ happens.  It is like this big black blotch got thrown onto your tapestry.  It’s India ink so it’s not coming out. 

And sometimes it is just too painful to go there so you weave around it.  Now if you go along, weaving around it, and you step back a take a look at your tapestry, where do you think your eyes are drawn?  Yes, it is actually a fact of optics that if I had a tapestry in front of you right now and it had a black blotch on it, if you opened your eyes, your vision would be drawn there.  If we avoid dealing with it, it is controlling our lives.  We are either running away from it all the time or being drawn into it all the time.

What we want to do is to begin to carefully weave new threads into that area.  We do that with therapy, loving relationships, sometimes through spiritual experiences, sometimes with reading, and more.  So you are going along in your life carefully weaving these new threads into your life and then if you step back and take a look at your life, just one of the many things that you notice is how the dark area provides a contrast for the beautiful threads that have been woven since.  Your life is going to be different, but not damaged or broken.